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PARENT AND CHURCH RESOURCES:
BOOKS &
WORKSHOPS
Wes Fleming presents workshops
for your church & parent-teacher organization
(scroll down)
To schedule
a conference contact 1-315-682-8881 or email us from contact
page
Books: Raising Children On
Purpose
  Expanded version (c) 2006 available at all Christian
Bookstores
Sometimes the demands of life can strip away any sense
of purpose from our parenting. On days like these we wonder if there
is more to raising kids than removing peanut butter from our
preschooler's hair, sparing the cat from an untimely demise, and
talking our teen down from an hormonal high.
Proverbs 22:6 says parents are to: Raise up a child in the
way he should go.Rather than raising children by accident (from
crisis to crisis) the Bible indicates that parents are to raise
their children on purpose-according to their God-given purpose. An
easy-to-use survey tool within the book called, The DNA
(Divine Notion Awaiting) Analysis,
assesses a child's gifting and spiritual passion and determines
where they overlap. The premise of the survey, based on biblical
research and a twenty-year investigative study, is that a child's
calling is located at the place where God-given gifting and
spiritual passion intersect.
The second part of the book
helps parents to inspire in their children a desire to stay on their
God-given way. To arouse a passion for God and His will, parents are
provided with means to develop in their children a healthy capacity
to trust, an accurate perception of God the Father, and a
receptivity to God's invitation to experience Him personally.
Children benefit from the principles found in the book,
Raising Children On Purpose five ways:
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1. Children grow up highly motivated- their avocation
will become their vocation
2. They become peak
performers-they are trained within their area of gifting
3.
They are goal oriented-they know the way they are to go
4.
They are responsible-they take charge of their future
5.
They are passionate about Jesus-they know the Way-Maker
personally
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First edition
August 2001, Trade Paperback, $10 (plus S & H) Get the book,
Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
Second edition March 2006, Trade Paperback expanded,
$12.99 (plus S & H) available through bookstores
| Booklet Survey: Helping Your Child Find Their
Way - survey booklet (12 pages) |
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Discover your children's
God-given calling and raise them to fulfill it! Designed for parents
and Christian educators of children ages seven to eighteen, the
survey reveals your child's God-given calling by assessing unique
gifting and interests, then locating where these components overlap.
It is here at the crossroads of gifting and spiritual passion that
the "way a child is to go" is discovered. The survey is not meant to
predict a specific vocation for your child-it is not a career
placement tool, though it may supplement such instruments. The
assessment tool can, however, serve as a guide for parents who seek
to raise their children according to their "way"-their God-given
calling. Children who are encouraged to pursue what they like to do
and what they are good at will obviously exhibit motivation and
excellence in their performance. God knows the plan He has for your
children, and He promises to be available to help you find it-Jere
29:11!
Get the
survey, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
$8.95 ( plus S
& H)
Volume
Discounts:Raising Children On Purpose: $10. with orders of 5 or
more -- a value of over 15% discount. Survey Booklet, Helping Your
Kids Find Their Way: $5.00 with orders of 10 or more--a value of
over 20% savings. To learn how you can get volume discounts for
gifts, classes, small group, or seminar study, call Call
1-315-682-8881 or email from contact page.
Books:The Seven Destiny Makers
(upcoming release, 180 pages)
Discover seven
qualities of the heart and mind that a child needs to
succeed.
Based
on resiliency studies and the Search Institute's Developmental
Asset Index
1. Destiny Maker
#1: A Well-Nourished Soul. Unmet emotional needs hamstring a
child's calling.
Learn to
lay a foundation for destiny by satisfying the needs of your child's
soul.
2. Destiny Maker #2: A Passion for Jesus.
Predispose your children to seek God with all their
heart.
3. Destiny Maker
#3: The Capacity to Love. Every aspect of your child's calling
from personal
interaction with others to
worshiping and serving God depends on an ability to give and receive
forgiveness, express empathy, and exchange
trust.
4. Destiny Maker #4: Self Discipline. Delayed
gratification and perseverance are essential qualities for carrying
out long-term goals. Help your child to develop the internal
restraints needed for success.
5. Destiny Maker #5: Good
Judgment. Choosing a spouse, a church, and a vocation are decisions
that determine the course of a life. Teach your children to make
wise choices-help them to grow in problem-solving skills and
decision-making.
6. Destiny Maker #6: A Teachable Spirit.
Those that succeed in their calling have the attitude of a learner.
Enable your children to receive correction from others-help them to
heed wise advice and to seek godly counsel.
7. Destiny Maker
#7: A Clear Sense of Purpose. A strong sense of purpose breeds
motivation and a willingness to sacrifice. Identify and affirm your
child's calling-help your child to know the "the way he is to
go."
Seminars and Workshops for
Parents and
Educators
Raising Children On Purpose, Saturday Seminar 
Part
I
Saturday Morning 9- 11:45 AM
This workshop
entitled, Helping Your Children Find Their Way, will teach you how
to discover your child's unique calling. Using The DNA (Divine
Notion Awaiting) Analysis, an easy-to-use survey tool, you will
assess your child's gifting and spiritual passion and then determine
where they overlap. Our premise (founded upon biblical evidence) is
that your child's calling is located at the place where his or her
God-given gifting and spiritual passion intersect.
Part II
Saturday Afternoon 12:30 - 3:30 PM
Helping
Your Children To Stay On Their Way will help you to encourage your
child to walk out his or her God-given, unique path. In this
workshop you will learn to arouse in your child a passion for Jesus
and His will by helping him to develop a healthy capacity to trust,
a positive impression of God the Father, and by introducing him to
the presence of God.
This seminar will help
you:
Assess your child's natural talent and gifting
Recognize your child's spiritual passion
Determine the point at which gifting and interest overlap
Discover your child's God-given calling
Prepare your child to trust God
Form an accurate concept of God and His character within your
child
Inspire a passion for Jesus in your child and a desire to do His
will
(Note: this seminar is single-parent and blended-family
sensitive).
Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
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Cultivating a Passion for Jesus in Children, Saturday
Seminar
To set a
fire for God in your children, you must first warm their
hearts. Learn how to bond and build trust in your children.
Then discover five ways to whet a child's spiritual appetite
through worship, prayer and teaching. Find out how you can do
more than introduce children to Bible facts-learn how to
facilitate an experience with God. Kids need more than
information-they need revelation.
Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact
Us to
order |
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The Seven Destiny Makers, Saturday Seminar
Based
on resiliency studies and the Search
Institute's Developmental Asset
Index
Discover seven qualities of the
heart and mind that a child needs to succeed and learn
how to establish them in your child's life.
1. Destiny Maker
#1: A Well-Nourished Soul. Unmet emotional needs hamstring
a child's calling. Learn to lay a foundation for destiny by
satisfying the needs of your child's soul.
2. Destiny
Maker #2: A Passion for Jesus. Predispose your children to
seek God with all their heart.
3. Destiny Maker #3:
The Capacity to Love. Every aspect of your child's calling
from personal interaction with others to worshiping and
serving God depends on an ability to give and receive
forgiveness, express empathy, and exchange trust.
4.
Destiny Maker #4: Self Discipline. Delayed
gratification and perseverance are essential qualities for
carrying out long-term goals. Help your child to develop the
internal restraints needed for success.
5. Destiny Maker
#5: Good Judgment. Choosing a spouse, a church, and a
vocation are decisions that determine the course of a life.
Teach your children to make wise choices-help them to grow in
problem-solving skills and decision-making.
6. Destiny
Maker #6: A Teachable Spirit. Those that succeed in their
calling have the attitude of a learner. Enable your children
to receive correction from others-help them to heed wise
advice and to seek godly counsel.
7. Destiny Maker
#7: A Clear Sense of Purpose. A strong sense of purpose
breeds motivation and a willingness to sacrifice. Identify and
affirm your child's calling-help your child to know the "the
way he is to go." Get
the seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact
Us to order |
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Hey Mom, What
Are You Serving For Destiny?, Saturday
Seminar
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Unmet emotional needs from childhood
can hamstring a life. Homes that serve an ample
supply of approval, affection, protection, for
instance, are more likely to raise confident and
resilient children than those that withhold it. But
what if, as parents, our emotional plates were never
filled? What if we are still hungry for approval,
affection and safety as adults? How can we give away
something we never received? Many of us grew
up in homes in which there was a "love deficit" and
now struggle with attitudes and behaviors that emotionally
handicap our own children. How do we break the cycle?
Your Father in heaven offers you the opportunity to be loved
by a perfect parent. He wants to re-parent us. By learning to
receive the Father's love, our need for affirmation and
security can be met. You no longer have to serve your family
from an empty plate. You can offer them the love and strength
they need as you draw from the parent-child relationship
your heavenly Father seek to establish with you. Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or
Contact Us to
order
Part
I
Saturday Morning 9- 11:45
AM
Discover
what your child needs emotionally to fulfill his
calling
Discover your emotional needs
Discover
how you serve from an empty plate
Part
II
Saturday Afternoon 12:30 - 3:30
PM
Meet the
perfect parent--our Heavenly Father
Experience the Father's
love in your life
Discover how you can serve from a
full plate
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Raising Fearless Kids in
Frightening Times, Saturday
Seminar
How can parents help their children to
overcome the fears they face in daily life? Bullies, peer
ridicule, report cards, and divorce can make a child's
world an anxious place. Besides comforting our
children when frightening events occur, how can we give our
kids the tools they need to manage fear on their own? How can
we teach our children to overcome fear in their lives and
replace it with faith in God? Help you children develop the
spiritual and emotional skills they need to overcome fear
with faith.
1. Develop
a capacity to trust in your child so that he is willing
to receive comfort and advice from you and from God.
2.
Help your children to identify and name their feelings.
Helping your children to acknowledge fear is the first
step in overcoming it.
3. Identify underlying beliefs that
cause fear so your children can manage it.
4. Help
children come up with their own plan for handling fear. Build
confidence and empower your children to overcome it.
5.
Learn to be a better model as you trust in God during times of
uncertainty and fear.
6. Control the flow of fear
provoking information into your home and help your child
interpret it accurately.
QUOTES from workshop:
"A fearless
child is not without fear, he is simply without cause to fear.
He will still experience fear, but he has the power to disarm
it by dismissing the belief system that sustains it and find
the comfort and support he needs through the help of
others."
" Kids don't
need tougher skin, they need sounder minds." (See 2 Tim
1:7)"
Case
studies solved in this seminar:
Kendra
(preschooler) is afraid of monsters under her bed.
Billy
(age 7) is afraid of a bully on school bus.
Bobby
(age eight) is feeling anxious about parents pending
divorce.
Stacy
(age eight) has a brother who has a brain tumor.
Jenny
(age ten) is afraid of her gym teacher.
Susie
(age twelve) is afraid of being made fun of by more popular
girls.
Stan (age
fourteen) is afraid of saying no to his friends who want to go
to a party where there will be drugs.
Get the seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
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Seminars for
Christian Education:
Teacher Training & Recruiting
Volunteers
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(Combine all three
workshops for a weekend extravaganza!
7-9pm Friday eve
and Saturday 8:30am-2:30pm) |
Snore No More - (Two hour workshop)
Eliminate
boredom forever in your children's church and Sunday School classes.
This high powered, hands on, teacher training workshop presents the
three keys to a dynamic educational experience: Experience,
Belonging and Fun. Get them off the back row and put them on the
edge of their seats. Learn to teach in such a way that kids (and
adults) learn and love it.
Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
Divine Appointments
(Recruiting in the New Millennium) - (Two hour
workshop)
Trouble finding children's workers? Need an assistant?
Develop a recruiting program that lets the Lord of the Harvest be
your "Head Hunter." No more round pegs in square holes, God has a
better way. Discover heavenly, yet practical principles for
communicating your church's needs, finding the right people and
keeping them. The workers are there-let Him show you.
Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
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Why Johnny Can't Sit Down - (Four hour
workshop)
Reduce problem behavior by seventy-five percent
getting REAL* with your kids. *Group Publishing acrostic www.Grouppublishing.com
R elational:
building trust
E xperiential: appreciate active
learning
A pplicable: make your teaching
relevant
L earner based: involve
the children in the learning
process
Maintain order in your class and watch
behavior change as you give away power instead
of tightening your grip. Increase retention! Learn how to
clearly communicate your expectations, set realistic limits,
apply appropriate consequences, and award quiet seat prizes --
plus: what to do about seriously troubled kids. Help them
to listen -- and like it! |
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Get the
seminar, Call 1-315-682-8881 or Contact Us to
order
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For seminar and
workshop information contact:
Call 1-315-682-8881
or go to email on contact page
Expenses: Wes Fleming will come to your church,
school, or conference center for
a suggested donation. He
is affordable and as a non-profit organzation is committed
helping families
in need. Often registration fees can
help cover travel costs and honorarium. |
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